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New Year’s Purpose

January 6, 2017

I don’t believe in New Year’s resolutions. I decided several years ago that the decision to swear to do or not to do something during the upcoming year is more wishful thinking than commitment. I prefer to create new actions – which in turn manifests my annual visions.

In my opinion, history has proven that these New Year’s resolutions are made with good intentions, but after about two weeks into the New Year, they are forgotten, buried, and pushed to the side without any further regard.

According to www.shape.com, they highlighted 10 reasons why you don’t stick to your resolutions. 1. Must people go at it alone, which means there is no one to hold you accountable. www.shape.com explains that you should surround yourself with people who inspire you to be more, do more, and have more. 2. Your resolution is extremely lofty. You should seek a more attainable goal and refrain from choosing resolutions that are too big. Now I believe in thinking big, but you must ensure your actions match your visions. 3. People tend to give up too easy. In my experience, I have learned that from a high-level perspective, there are certain types of people – starters, finishers, and people who are both. You know you are typically a starter when you enjoy the excitement of the new challenge, but once the endeavor becomes work, you tend to lose interest. Finishers don’t like to jump-start their ideas. You finishers tend to always have a justification of why you can’t get started. However, once you get going you tend to complete your tasks. Finally, there are those who are good at both initiating and finalizing their visions. You are normally successful completing your goals, but you have to be careful with taking on too much which can become overwhelming. 4. Time management is huge. After starting your resolution, you realize that it is a bigger time commitment than you thought. This normally occurs because there wasn’t a true plan created when you decided on your resolution. If you don’t consider your resolution a priority, then it’s not. 5. Financial burdens. If your resolution is associated with expenses that are too high, this can cause you to forgo your commitment. 6. Choosing unrealistic resolutions. You have to be honest with yourself. If you set a goal to lose a total of 100 lbs. but you want to lose 50 lbs. within two weeks, you really need to reconsider how sensible is your resolution. 7. No plan. I alluded to this in a previous comment. The best resolutions are those that actually include a plan-of-action (www.shape.com.) It is critical to put a plan in place to achieve your goals, and the key word here is ACTION. Without action, you are stagnate. 8. Lack of honesty. Again, I mention earlier that you must be honest about your commitment. If you know you haven’t worked out in a year, why would you take on a marathon challenge without planning and completing the proper training that will assist with your success? 9. Wrong perspective. Although you may have the best intentions, you could be putting unnecessary pressure on yourself (www.shape.com.) Make sure that you keep decisions in perspective. 10. Not believing in yourself. Sometimes you must encourage yourself. Yes, it great when others can give us a pat on the back, but there is nothing like mastering the art of self-affirmation. Self-affirming will lead you to true success. To master this task, you first have to love everything about yourself – even the things that you want to change. You have to give yourself permission to fall, while inspiring yourself to get-up and start again.

I believe that self-affirmation is a major part of success. To assist you with self-affirmation, I want to explain the meaning according to Wikipedia. It’s a psychological theory that focuses on how individuals adapt to information or experiences that are threatening to their self-concept. In other words, how you process information coupled with your life experiences will dictate how well you will master self-affirmation. It will require practice if you want to get good at encouraging yourself. I suggest that you create a plan-of-action and make a commitment to work on becoming your personal cheerleader. So now what? Should you create a New Year’s Resolution or not? Well, why not write your realistic action plan first, incorporate self-affirmations daily – then rather creating unfilled resolutions, this year decree to manifest your authentic purpose.

Zelda Corona is a business and life coach under her company Victory Vision Business Ventures, LLC. She co-authored the books No Artificial Ingredients – Reflections Unplugged and Mommy Divas on the Move: 16 Successful Secrets for Mompreneurs. She is a member of Sister Speak, a trilogy of writers who formed in 2010 with a vision of self-expression and a goal of healing. The trio states they are inspired by grace, allowing them to take a genuine position on the struggles and successes of everyday living.

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