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That’s My Shade

December 5, 2016

What are your true colors?  I was just saying to my son the other day that most people are hiding certain things about themselves for various reasons.  Embarrassment.  Ego.  Or simply just wanting to portray themselves as having the “perfect” life.  Whatever the reasons, during our conversation, I assured him that when we are fake, or afraid to tell our truth, this is when people can hold us hostage.  But when we are fearless enough to tell our story—better yet, our testimony—this is when naysayers literally have to walk away because there is nothing else left to be said.

According to an article in the Huffington Post, if you want to impress someone, don’t try.  When you have the need to showcase your value, it usually means that you are seeking affirmation that you are worthy.

Cookie Lyon, a character of the hit TV show Empire, was working extremely hard to impress the mother of her new boyfriend.  She went as far as buying new furniture for her home, changing how she would normally dress for an occasion, and finally catering a beautiful seafood meal, to which mommy dearest was allergic.  When it was all said and done, Cookie decided that enough was enough, and she laid all of her cards on the table.  Yes, this particular scenario was fiction, but the principles of the story are real.  Once Cookie became loyal to herself, it didn’t really matter what her boyfriend’s mother thought of her.   What was more critical was how Cookie felt about herself.

There is an old saying, “the truth will set you free.”  I have learned that it will do just that.  The truth will release you from the strong-holds of others, and more importantly, honesty will liberate you from the bondage that you have placed on yourself to keep up appearances.  No need to remember lies that you have told, and that feeling of defeat that engulfs you like a flood of muddy water after you post that photo of you with the phony smile showing off your fabulous life, is no longer your fraudulent defense. The good news is that you can and you will emerge to higher ground.

The lyrics by Cyndi Lauper actually says it all: “But I see your true colors shining through.  I see your true colors and that’s why I love you.  So don’t be afraid to let them show.  Your true colors.  True colors are beautiful like a rainbow.”

Zelda Corona is a business and life coach under her company Victory Vision Business Ventures, LLC. She co-authored the books No Artificial Ingredients – Reflections Unplugged and Mommy Divas on the Move: 16 Successful Secrets for Mompreneurs. She is a member of Sister Speak, a trilogy of writers who formed in 2010 with a vision of self-expression and a goal of healing. The trio states they are inspired by grace, allowing them to take a genuine position on the struggles and successes of everyday living.

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